Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Hope

Image result for hopeHope is a "feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen". I don't have any hope anymore. I know sounds cliche. All the things that happen to me made me loose hope. Getting tired of everything and hoping it turns out well later on but "hope" decides to end it with a big hurricane of more problems and crying. I'm not the only one with problems in the world but what i'm stating is why i don't have any hope on some things more emotional or on things that matter. But when you have hope it comes from your guts and your heart. lets say you hope for something new or hope for something to get better it comes from inside of you. When you have hope you have to have faith if you don't why have hope. I think hope and faith is the same thing just described differently than the other .

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Birthmark

Image result for paintings of faces with a flaw     In the story Birthmark it talks about how a woman is insecure about her birthmark and later decides to remove it. She later realizes that she misses her birthmark.
 The birthmark made her unique and when she later had an accident not a car accident or a bad accident she dropped jelly. A stain got on her face the same place her birthmark was at before she removed it. She looked in the mirror and saw the wine like stain in her cheek and made her think about her birthmark. I think this story is about insecurities because she was so insecure about her birthmark she thought it made her look ugly. I think birthmarks are a unique thing. I also have a birthmark and I'm not insecure about it because I always think it's something I have in common with my mom. I don't think people should be insecure about it they should just embrace it. In the story it says that she lost her accent when she didn't even know she had one. The story also talks about romance. She has situations with her husband and when her accident happen of her dropping the jelly and got the wine like stain her husband began to think if she kept that stain and hoped that she wouldn't wipe it off because he started to love her more with it. He started to think that he is now ready to have kids with her.

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Ted Talk: Happiness

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This Ted talk is about how researchers were able to predict interesting things based on a smile. They could predict how long they live, or how long the persons marriage can last, how well the person would score on a standardized tests of well being, and how inspiring they would be to others. Ron Gutman states " More than a third of us smile more than 20 times a day whereas less than 14 percent of us smile less than five" which explains that most people including me smile more than 20 times a day. Different people also smile more than 20 times a day including members of the Fore tribe who are completely disconnected from Western Culture would smile for things we would also smile about. In fact those who smile more are children who smile as many as 400 times per day. A research found that it is very difficult to frown when looking at someone who smiles because smiling is "evolutionarily contagious". The speaker also states " in addition to theorizing on evolution in "The Origin of Species,"  Charles Darwin also wrote the facial feedback response theory; his theory states that the act of smiling itself makes us feel better rather than smiling being merely a result of feeling good". Which explains that when smiling itself makes us feel better rather than just only a result of feeling good.

https://www.ted.com/playlists/4/what_makes_you_happy : Ted talk: BY Ron Gutman; The Hidden Power of Smiling 

Friday, March 3, 2017

Gilbert's Talk

Image result for The Surprising Science of HappinessThe finding in Gilbert's talk is that there are two different types of happiness. There are synthetic happiness and real happiness. Synthetic happiness does not have the same equality like real happiness. Real happiness is when we get the things we wanted. And synthetic happiness is not getting things you wanted but your still happy. Gilbert said, "There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so". Which explains that everything is not good or bad there okay. For example going to Hawaii and having surgery is the same thing. It might sound weird but makes sense. I didn't get it at first, wondering and trying to think how does it make sense. Later understood what Gilbert the talker tried to say. For example Gilbert states, "  Most people think lottery winners are more happy than paraplegic people but we found out that they are both happy after a year of their situation". This explains that no matter how there life is going people end up being equally happy no matter if their situation a year ago was good or bad. I believe people are happy when they get the things they want and worked hard for it than people who get what they want the easy way. For example I will be really happy if I got my first house with the hard work I have done to get it.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Happiness

Image result for happinessWhat is happiness? Well for me it's the moment when you forget about everything that is happening around you. I think happiness is really important because without happiness you will be sad and negative the whole time. some people have problems that make them unhappy and it's okay because not every day its going to be a good day. The secret to being happy is enjoying life. Life is to short to be unhappy and worry about problems that one day are going to disappear later in life nothing is permanent. Enjoy spending time with the people you love. Don't take them for granted. Some people want every thing but not everyone can have every thing you want. People think that money will bring them happiness because they could buy the things that they wanted. But it doesn't always come that way because some people will have money and not have someone or people to share it with. That's one reason why people are unhappy in my opinion. There are so many reasons why people are unhappy. They probably lost a family member like their mom, dad, or a sibling. every one is unhappy at one point. I will be unhappy when my grandmas past away because I will know I won't see them any more or get a chance to see them. But you will think you won't be happy any more because there not with you but you also have to look in the bright side and remember the special and happy moment you had with them. That's what makes me happy. I remember the times I was happy. For example I will like to remember moments with my family. One of my happiest moments was when i had the chance to spend time with my family that I haven't seen in a while. When I went to go visit I was so excited to see every one because they are the ones that I grew up with and had a wonderful childhood with them. The day I saw them was like the best day of my life because we reconnected.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Are You Okay?

Image result for question markAre you okay is the question I want to be asked. But to really show that they care for me. I will always respond with yea i'm okay. Or I will say i'm just tired that's why I seem sad. I will just like to tell them what is wrong with me instead of saying "um" or just saying "i'm okay" when i'm not. I will always lie when asked if i'm okay. I feel like my problems don't matter to them. That they don't care and why should they. I will act like i'm okay and say nothing but I will like to have a friend I can tell whats wrong with me because I feel like my friends don't care about my problems. I cry to let my feelings out. I know it so stupid but to not tell someone is hard. because if I tell them whats wrong they will later forget and wont care and I don't like that be cause it makes me feel like I don't matter.

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Best Self

Image result for best selfWe are three persons. The person we believe to be, the person we are, and the person we want to become. What it takes to become our best self is patience and hard work. You need patience because you cant just change from night to day it's not that simple to do. Patience will help you stay calm while in the process to become nice or less angry. Or to help you stay calm when you changing how you act. It will take a lot of work to do but its worth it because if your mean and selfish and trying to turn to your best self and become nice and giving to other people it will make them accept you and like you more. Than ignoring you and not wanting to become your friend which is sad to realize. http://blog.iqmatrix.com/ideal-self this article will help you understand what it takes to become your better self. And gives you helpful steps on how to become your best self.